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Routines are great. The morning workouts, the supplements, the matcha, the Sunday resets. We love it all. They are not only good for your physical health, but for your mental health too. Doing things for yourself that improve you is key to living intentionally.
But one of the most powerful wellness habits is invisible: the way you narrate your own life.
Two people can experience the same rejection, the same delay, the same awkward moment. One spirals. One adjusts.
The difference is interpretation.
Instead of: “Why does this always happen to me?”
It becomes: “Okay. What’s the move now?”
For women navigating careers, relationships, ambition, healing, growth and everything in between, a positive mindset is not a luxury. It is infrastructure. The way you interpret your life shapes how you experience it.
Why mindset matters more than we think
This is not just motivational language. From research, it has been shown that optimistic thinking is associated with better long term health outcomes, including lower cardiovascular risk and longer lifespan. It also shows that optimistic people tend to regulate stress more effectively and stick to healthier behaviours.
In simple terms, the women who believe things can improve are more likely to keep showing up for themselves.
And showing up compounds.
How this changes lived experience
Here is what positivity actually looks like in real life:
You miss a workout. You go the next day.
You get rejected. You apply again.
You have a low week. You do not make it your identity.
Research also shows that optimistic thinking is associated with greater goal persistence. When things slow down or feel uncomfortable, optimistic people are more likely to keep going rather than withdraw.
Not because they ignore reality. But because they believe effort still matters. And that belief changes behaviour.
Beyond long term goals and achievements, positivity changes something more immediate: your nervous system.
When you constantly tell yourself everything is a disaster, your body reacts as if it is. Your heart rate rises. Your muscles tighten. Your thoughts speed up. You live in a low grade state of urgency.
When you soften the narrative, even slightly, your body responds differently.
Instead of
“This is a mess. I cannot handle this.”
It becomes
“This is frustrating, but I will figure it out.”
That shift signals safety. And when your nervous system feels safer:
- You think more clearly.
- You respond instead of react.
- You communicate more calmly.
- You sleep more deeply.
- You make better decisions.
Positivity becomes less about being upbeat and more about staying regulated. It is the difference between escalating your own stress and steadying yourself through it. And in day to day life, traffic, emails, deadlines, misunderstandings and delays, that steadiness changes everything.
What positivity is not
It is not ignoring real issues, it’s not bypassing grief, it’s not pretending structural challenges do not exist.
It is choosing not to treat every obstacle like it is a self fulfilling prophecy. You can acknowledge reality and still believe in your capacity to move within it.
Your life is not only what happens to you. It is how you interpret what happens. Choose an interpretation that supports the woman you are becoming.
Anu Aborisade
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