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In life, I’ve noticed that many people often search and spend their whole lives seeking validation from others, whether it’s to feel a sense of belonging, to affirm experiences, realities, or to find a sense of themselves. But how often do we seek validation from ourselves? How often do we take the time to ask, what do I truly want? What do I genuinely care about? Why does the voice of others matter more to me than my own?

Have you ever felt so unnoticed, unwanted, or undesirable, like a background character in life?

Happy New Year!

I recently turned 24, and as I reflect, I realise just how much I’ve learnt over the past year. Life moves quickly, and 23 was a year of sharpening my focus and refining who I am. When I turned 23, I wrote an article called 22 things I learned at 22. This year, I’m continuing the tradition with 23 things I learned at 23. I  hope my reflections inspire you, and offer some valuable insights, from what I’ve discovered about life and myself.

The year isn’t over yet, and by that, I mean there’s still time for exciting and good things to happen, so continue to be expectant. There’s still time for the things you’re hoping for, the things you want to see unfold. Just because we’re approaching the end of the year, don’t write off the possibility that a positive change could still happen in your life.

Like other times before, yesterday, I experienced a resurgence of emotions from past situations that I thought I had long resolved. This prompted a deep analysis of my life and feelings. Each time this happens, I learn something new about myself.

Friends are the family we choose.

Firstly, what is described as burnout?

Not so long ago, I was reminded of a past I had blocked out from my memory. It brought to mind how far I've come, but also where I came from. I found it to be quite triggering, to say the least, and caused my already unsettled morning, to go further downhill. The person I was a few years ago would have been completely shaken by this encounter. However, I hadn't realised the extent of the work and the power of healing that has been invested in my life. It dawned on me that things no longer hold the same sway over me as they once did. After that, I pretty much spent the majority of the day with it being forgotten about.

Self-doubt often manifests as an internal characteristic, constantly undermining your confidence. It often serves as the landlord in the house where imposter syndrome is a tenant. 

Tomorrow is my birthday, and I am excited yet a bit nervous to enter the year 23 and experience all that it has in store for me.