The process of finding myself

Published on 20 October 2023 at 07:33

In my own process of finding and learning myself, I've encountered various phases, faced my fair share of lows, and celebrated a few highs. I've explored different aspects of life and indulged in some desires. But, in the end, I've come to the realisation:


The person I once thought I wanted to be, turned out to be a self-defeating character. 

The image I had crafted in my own mind, the one I believed would make me happy, often felt hollow and lacking substance. I eventually found that I didn't admire that persona or aspire to embody it anymore. This persona was frequently influenced by societal expectations or the pursuit of attention and validation. While personal growth and progress are crucial, it's essential to ensure that I'm working on myself for my well-being.

I've learned that being true to myself and evolving for a purpose that benefits both me and others is far more fulfilling than seeking validation from external sources. The only validation I need is from God, and he has done that already. The opinions of others became less significant. It's pleasant when others acknowledge or speak kindly of me, but constructing my entire self-image around their words becomes tiresome. Eventually, I lost interest in upholding that facade.


Everything in life is fleeting, and not much lasts forever.

There is a season and a time for everything, and the more I meditate on it, the clearer it becomes. We don’t stay the same people as life evolves us. We are not always going to like the same things, do the same things. Life grounds you and can also take you to different seas, but in that discovery I found myself to have become more willing in accepting that change is a constant, and at times to just go where the wind blows, embrace the difference, and make it count while it's there. Enjoy the change of seasons. I've also learned to not let things get to me and bother me all the time.


There’s no harm in distance.

For me, peace of mind is everything, and when it's disrupted, it affects my mental well-being. Distance doesn't equate to hatred; it signifies a need for breathing room, reflection, and realignment. Often, situations serve as revelations, causing me to question how I ended up in a particular position. In such scenarios, I have found the best course of action is to distance myself from circumstances that don't make sense. Each of us has a unique path to follow, and it's vital to respect that. Diverging from someone else's path doesn't imply malice; it reflects faith that everything will eventually work out. Whether later in life the paths align in the future or not, it's essential to prioritise my own journey.




Anu Aborisade

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7 months ago

So well-written & insightful ๐Ÿ˜Š

7 months ago

Captivating, as always๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

7 months ago

Insightful! Well done Anu.

Siobhan Ukp
7 months ago

You write so well and explain things clearly itโ€™s like Iโ€™m visually seeing your thought process ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ โ€œ life evolves usโ€ >>>>